Monthly Archives: June 2011

The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly: What Working Moms Really Think About Stay-At-Home-Moms

Over the past two years I’ve been debating the pros and cons of being a stay at home mom or stay at work mom and have picked the brains of countless other working moms who have already waded through this dilemma or are currently struggling with it themselves.

Here’s what working moms had to say (based on my formal interviews of moms-at-large and casual chats with friends), including the good, the bad and unfortunately, even the ugly:

The Good

SAHMs have it the best.

  • “She’s so lucky she can spend time with her kids.”
  • “She’s so lucky she can afford to stay at home.”
  • “She has the best life and doesn’t even have to work.”

SAHMs are the true working moms.

  • “I don’t know how she can stay at home with the kids 24/7.”
  • “I couldn’t stay home with my kids – I’d go insane.”
  • “I don’t want to stay at home.  I like working and I need a break from my kids.”

The Bad

SAHMs should be doing more since they have so much free time.

  • “She’s a stay-at-home-mom so of course she has the time to exercise.”
  • “Let’s have the stay-at-home-mom do the research for our group trip.  The rest of us are working and don’t have the time.”
  • “Why wouldn’t she do [X]?  She doesn’t work.”

 SAHMs are cop outs.

  • “I can’t believe she wasted her [X] degree to be a stay-at-home-mom.”
  • “She’s just a stay-at-home-mom.”

The Ugly

SAHMs don’t have the right to complain. 

  • “She has no idea what it’s like to manage a family and a life:  she’s a stay-at-home mom.”
  • “Why does she have problems with [X]?  She doesn’t have anything to worry about except playdates.”
  • “Her kids should be better behaved.  I mean, she spends all that time with them.”
  •  “Why is she so unhappy?  She doesn’t have to work.  Her life is so easy.”

Today’s Verdict:  Hung jury.  Staying at home or staying at work, having kids is a full time job.

WIPLA June Cocktail and Networking Reception (6/9)

Join WIPLA at MacArthur Park Restaurant in Palo Alto from 5:30-7:30  p.m. this Thursday (6/9) for cocktails and friendly networking with your fellow female intellectual property litigators from the San Francisco Bay Area.

Register here.

Cheers!

Hot Topics in Blog, Social Network and Internet Law (6/8)

Join Ian C. Ballon, Author (E-Commerce and Internet Law: Treatise with Forms 2d Edition) and Internet and IP litigator (Greenberg Traurig LLP) and Santa Clara Law School Professor Eric Goldman for a free breakfast seminar on Hot Topics in Blog, Social Network and Internet Law, on Wednesday, June 8th at 8:30 a.m. at SCU’s Nobili Hall.

Learn about some of the hottest legal issues facing Silicon Valley Internet companies from the experts.

E-mail GTSVEvents@gtlaw.com to RSVP.  Continental breakfast from 8:30-9:00 a.m.; presentation from 9:00-10:30 a.m.  More info here.